I've been thinking about this and I'd love to know your thoughts.
The other day, one of my daughters asked me a question: "Hey, Mom. If someone is a transgender woman who is attracted to other women, is she a lesbian?" And then the next day she asked, "Hey, Mom. If two bisexual girls are in a relationship with each other, is it a lesbian relationship?"
She wasn't trying to be a smartass---they were honest questions. She's at an age where sexual identities and relationship dynamics are becoming really important. I answered as best as I could.
But her questions got me thinking about labels.
But. But I have degrees in psychology so I know that labeling seems to be an instinctive human trait. And labels can be empowering. They can be a source of pride and solidarity. Sometimes instead of dividing us, they can be a source of commonality, maybe even bringing us together with people who we might otherwise not notice. A label can even have profound legal consequences. For example, it matters in a lot of ways whether two people are domestic partners or spouses.
To what degree are you comfortable with labeling yourself and your relationships? What do you see as some of the risks and benefits? Do we try too hard to label people in our society? Does it make a difference when labels are self-imposed rather than placed on us by others?